It is well not to experience undesired things; but whoever has not that good fortune must needs keep his affliction to himself.Related posts:
καλὸν μὲν γὰρ ἀπείραστον εἶναι τῶν ἀβουλήτων, ὅτῳ δὲ οὐχ ὑπάρχει τοῦτο, κρύπτειν τὴν συμφορὰν ἀναγκαῖον.
Update: At Siris there is a collection of links on the poetry of Billy Graham's wife Ruth Bell Graham, who recently died at the age of 87. One of her poems contains these lines:
cry—
if you must—
but privately cry.