quotes a woman at a Greek wedding who said to him:
If you do not join the dancing, you will feel foolish. If you dance, you will also feel foolish. So, why not dance? And I will tell you a secret: If you do not join the dance, we will know you are a fool. But if you dance, we will think well of you for trying. And if you dance badly to begin and we laugh, what's the sin in that? We all begin there. Come on.
I don't buy the opening premise of that argument, and I prefer Kierkegaard (preface to Philosophical Fragments
Let no one invite me, for I do not dance.